I Am A Black Woman Cliche And I Like It

I have been hesitatant to write about this. The title makes this clear but I just have to. I am addicted to The Secret. I believe in The Secret. I want to share.

I am not a new age person. I am actually quite cynical. So when Isha asked me if I had heard about The Secret, I just sort of rolled my eyes. I knew that it was an Oprah thing and it just felt a bit too corny. But Isha told me not to google it or learn anything about. She wanted to talk to me about it herself. (She knows me all too well. She knew if I looked it up that I would quickly dismiss it.) So one afternoon, Jayanth, she and I went to Dunkin Donuts for some coffee and she explained.

The Secret, and I am oversimplifying it, is essentially the power of positive thinking for the new millenium. There is a movie, which you can watch online, and a website. The deal is to essentially think about your life, to look at your life as if you already have the things you want. Put that energy out into the world and you can have anything that you want. Anything at all. That is really all you have to do. You attract people to your life by the images in your mind.

Sure there are more steps but it is actually not that much work. You continue to think about the things that you are grateful for. You can make a vision board. (Beebs and I did this and it sits over me bed.) The main steps are to ask, believe and receive. So, I say when I buy an apartment instead of if I buy an apartment. I could go on and on. (I will not tell you all of the things I want. I've got to keep somethings private.)

Looking at your life this way just makes you so excited for all of the things that you have to look forward to. For me, I think that I spent a lot of years thinking about things/people I have lost and I have not really been focused on what I have. Waking up in the morning and (on the subway on my way to work) making a list of things that I am grateful for just makes me feel pretty positive. Sure I have my bad days. I am not Pollyanna but I definately feel as if I am putting different energy out into the universe and that people are responding to that. Also, in terms of the some of the more personal things that I want, cynicsm has really gotten me nowhere. So I figured, what did I have to lose?

A few random examples of what I am grateful for:

I am grateful that though my allergies are acting up, I am actually in good health.

I am grateful that my trial for jury duty did not last very long.

I am grateful for my friend's help tackling my garden! It looks amazing and we only have a few more days of work to do.

I am grateful for this Marlon Brando documentary that I am watching because I love him and I love to hear people talk about the creative process. I can not get enough of it! Some of the actors (namely Sean Penn) are trying a bit too hard to be deep but hey, he's their hero. Man, was Quincy Jones friends with everyone? Good God that man got around.

I am grateful for this beautiful review of Waitress, which I am dying to see. I have never read a film review that I was actually moved by.

I am grateful for the really good Spanish food around the corner from me. I am especially grateful for the $3 rice and beans combo that is two meals!

So that's what's going on with me.

Comments

[Albert Howard]

Be encouraged and keep blogging!

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[Beebs]

OMG- Waitress! Thats so fucking sad! There are pics of all the actors at sundance right after she died. We gotta see this flick!

[David Jacobs]

Shaquille O'Neal calls this "Dreamful Attraction" and so do I.