Will and Jada?

Maybe you guys have heard this but I did not:

Will Smith and Wife Have 'Open' Marriage

United Press International
Actor Will Smith says he and his wife have an agreement that they can have relations  with others provided they inform each other first. Smith, 36, has been married to entertainer Jada Pinkett Smith for seven years. "Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural," Smith told Britain's Daily Mail. "You're going to be attracted to people. In our marriage vows, we didn't say forsaking all others. The vow that we made was that you will never hear that I did something after the fact." "If it came down to it, then one can say to the other, 'Look, I need to have  relations  with somebody. I'm not going to if you don't approve of it -- but please approve of it.'" Smith said he was forced to admit he had sexual feelings for other women when working on his film 'Hitch,' in which he stars with Eva Mendes, whom he described as freakin' gorgeous. Despite that attraction, Smith says his second marriage is still solid.

I don't think an open marriage is for me. I get it in theory, especially being a celebrity who is around gorgeous people all the time. I, however, don't have that problem and think that sex with one person is just fine but I'm old fashioned.

Now, I suppose we all cheat in little ways. I for one have been known to get have really close friendships with guys while in a relationship and maybe blurring the line a bit but I never crossed it. Still my closeness to another man did effect the relationship somewhat.

Comments

[Teresa]

Hmmmm? This "interview" is suspect. Will and Jada gave Diane Sawyer (or perhaps Barbara Walters) and televised interview several years ago where they said pretty much the same thing, however, it had to do with "looking" at the opposite sex rather than touching.

I distinctly remember Jada saying that she told Will about all of the men she found attractive and he told her which women he found likewise. Then they would allow each other to "make comments" based on that particular persons attractiveness to each other.

I remember this because Jada said that one of the men she is allowed to remark on in Will's hearing is "The Rock" and because I have the exact same preference, I took note of her comments.

Also, the London Daily Mail is not exactly the most respected of newpapers, so I would take anything they publish with a grain of salt.

[Ms World]

I actually don`t think the story is legit either but I can`t prove it. However, it brings up an interesting topic, open relationships.

I`m with Ms. Angela-I get it in theory but I don`t buy it. I know people who say they have an open relationship but it always ends up being destroyed. I also know that I don`t have the psychology or emotional capacity to subject myself to that kind of relationship. S*x with the right person will be enough for me.

[neil]

but the real deal is that the whole Will-Jada marriage and children thing is a blind here...they both prefer same sex relationships...

as for open marriages per se - they are truly wrong in theory and practice...its all about committment baby

[Jahzi]

Do yo thang!

[Marsh]

Please. Open, what? The thought of it is crazy and perverted. There's enough going on inside marriages to pull them apart. Why stir the pot by allowing outside conflict? I don't care how solid a marriage thinks it is. Openly screwing around will surely ruin it. If not, it will certainly change the way the other person thinks, forever. Its the lingering thoughts of your man enjoying another woman's sex that causes the deterioration over time.

I'm not saying that most married men or women don't ever cheat. That's an age-old issue. I'm saying that opening the marriage to "allow" for the act causes deeper emotional problems and even more insecurity in the relationship. I don't think opening the marriage is the healthiest solution to dealing with the lustful desires of a spouse for another person. How about just saying the old fashioned response of, "no, I'm sorry, I'm happily married and choose not to defile my union by having sex with you." Things just won't ever be the same. I don't care how much money the couple has, as in the Will and Jada megastars. Things are never the same afterwards. NEVER.

[do not defile your bed]

I think that we need to try to hold on to our morals in life. We are not going to be on this earth forever and we need to be careful not to defile ourselves. This is not easy but it its very possible. Every relationship has its trials and tribulations but it makes the marriage even better when you do not given in to temptation. I think that God knows that we will be tempted but the word says that he will never put more on us than we can bare and that he will never leave us nor foresake us. If will and Jada are christians then they should read those scriptures. I am in no way judging them, I have not walked in their shoes but I have been married a long time so I can relate to the pressures of outside people. I think that she has to be strong enough to say that this is wrong and you should not do this come home and if the temptation is to great then it's just a movie, you have to learn to seperate work and reality.

[Imari Adams]

I met Will & Jada at a party in downtown Buckhead near Atlanta. At first I thought they were very normal...but what started out as a normal luncheon, turned into what can only be described as a Whig revivalist virutal orgy. So many people want to suggest that Will & Jada are Scientologists...well the truth is, they are in fact Whig revivalists. Before 1900s, the Whig Party was a true force to be reckoned with in America. Among their philosophies, Relentless cornfield taxes, An end to All Avaition, A national Ban on fireworks, partial voting rights for the deceased, Horse tarrifs, and of course, open marriages.
When I first read the autobiography of Henry Clay, I almost vomited on the spot. Not only did the man sanction open marriages, he even went so far as to suggest that when a man makes love to his wife, he should not only do it in the presence of others, but charge a small tarriff, even to passers by and other onlookers. A troubling account of a pseudo brothel involving Clay and his wife and a young Crispus Attucks still haunts my dreams to this day. My point is, when an African American power couple gets caught up in Whig philosophy...well let's just say that swinging is the least of our concerns....